Places to have a quickie......

Sometimes less time can actually be a lot of fun. Find out how...

Are hectic schedules ruining your sex life? Deadlines to be met and boss sounding you out every quite so often shouldn't play spoilsport when it concerns your sexual desires. So if you are out of time for a prolonged sexual session, have more fun with a quickie to get the adrenalin flowing again. Follow our users guide to indulge in a quickie.

Elevator
Rahul and Sonia, colleagues at a call centre swear by the benefits of intimacy in an elevator. Says Rahul, "It's a lot of a fun when you sneak out to the elevator. Making out there acts as a huge stress buster, especially when you are staying up nights continuously. You can always stop the elevator midway, do your thing and be back in seven minutes sharp. But be ready for the looks that your friends give you once you step back in. " Reiterates Sonia, "quickies are a lot of fun if you know what you want and how to go about it."

Explains psychologist Amit Verma, "A five minute sex session is a good idea, so long you limit it at that. It is the best solution in a age when lack of proper sex sessions creates a lot of frustration and stress. Yet, I would still advise that when one indulges in such activities, it is best to be mindful of the people around as it might not have a great effect on children if they happen to catch you in the act. Doing it in an elevator is a good idea so long you don't hurt yourself in that rush. "

Movie theatre
A great place to get dirty down and under. Especially in empty theatres where you have a lot of space and lack of prying eyes. Reveals Jyoti Sharma, a student, "My boyfriend and I often hangout at movie halls. This saves us from getting caught and the intimacy we both crave for is what we can achieve in the last row seats. It's quite a kick when I imagine about all the things me and my lover have done at movie halls. With romantic songs in the background, it's the perfect setting for one to get cosy."

According to Verma, movie theatres guarantee uninhibited privacy. But, if you get caught in the act, you might find yourself in a very embarrassing situation. "It's best to just find pleasure in touching each other and not experiment with intimate positions. Also, indulging in the act can be more enjoyable than the actual act itself. So why not explore these areas?" suggests Verma.

Back of a club/restaurant
Being out on a hot date sharing your wildest fantasises with your dream boat is exciting, so if both of you are up for a quickie, head to the darkest corner of a nightclub, or even the bathroom, and get your bang on.
"To have it on at a restaurant lends a great boost to one's sex life. Often it breaks the monotony and ups the desirability factor. Sometimes, I like to have these sessions with my wife, a quick one while heading back home, behind a club. It makes us feel young and bond with each other, the way we used to as teenagers," confesses Aakash Malhotra.

"The dark areas behind a club, the staircase or some such place actually is a mighty turn on for your libido. The thing with couples is they should do what they both would enjoy sexually. If making out at the back of a popular night club or eatery facilitates their idea of bonding, then there is no harm. You might have people giving you curious stares, but being naughty at times helps," points out Verma.

Stairwell
The staircase in your office building could serve as the ideal place for a 1hot romp with your girlfriend. Rhea Kumar, a manager says getting it on in the staircase is a huge turn on. "This particular colleague of mine is a pro at quickies. A bang on at the staircase preferably on a really high floor can make you go crazy for a few minutes. It can make you feel very adventurous and desirable," she adds.

Psychologist Sheetal Mehta however warns of the risks involved in getting dirty on the staircase. One wrong position and you could go tumbling down. "Stairacases are good fun, but do not go overboard with such places because you could end up hurting yourself beyond measure," she explains.

Car
So it's not an original idea, but a quickie in a car, at a location where you won't be arrested for public indecency, can be a very memorable experience. Cars are not only spacious, but they remain the most wanted fantasy of most couples. Ravi Tanwar, a sales executive, totally swears by it. "My girlfriend and I do it in the car just before I drop her home sometimes. It is a lot of fun doing at deserted place with no one to disturb you. Also because of the limited space, you are almost bumping into each other and that definitely is a turn on that keeps us wanting to go on for more."

Mehta agrees that cars and four wheelers can make you feel very romantic and good about yourself. "Getting intimate within four wheelers can do wonders to couples who go through a crisis or are in need of closeness with each other," she advises.

Alley
The narrow dark alley behind a restaurant or your workplace does sound like something straight out of a romantic thriller. And you can give it a shot as it's a good option for those who are wildly adventurous. "I like my man because he is very unconventional when it comes to physical intimacy. He gets utterly passionate in the most unlikely of places and we often end up feeling up each other in ways beyond our wildest imagination. Actually it brings all your dark fantasies to life," winks choreographer Anjali Menon.

Even as Mehta agrees, she points out," Dark places are always best for those who want to be physical and do not have ample space outside. Yet 'is best to use your discretion about such places because you might end up with the wrong kind of people at the wrong time."

Office
Sometimes sex within the office can make you a more fulfilled person. A 10 minute session with your girlfriend who also happens to be your colleague can make you a better worker with a sexually gratified existence. "I like to make out in the office for 5-7 minutes. It refreshes me and helps me concentrate better at achieving deadlines," reveals Shashi Gupa who works with a MNC.

"Office make outs are very common in an age when people spend most of their time in office. Most indulge in it as a way to deal with work pressure," states Mehta.

Dressing room
You get all hot and heavy while your girl is changing in the dressing room of a clothing store? Well, why not just sneak in to give a kick to the monotony of a regular shopping spree. "I tried it once with my girlfriend when the salesperson was called away for a while. Imagine the fun you can have inside the changing room as there are mirrors everywhere. Seeing yourselves in the mirror can make you knees go jell,y so just think about all that can follow," says student, Siddharth Roy.

"Dressing rooms are great fun if you can actually figure an entry. But these days, with a lot of strict rules and surveillance cameras inserted everywhere, you may be asking for a lot of trouble if you indulge in these kind of getaways. Infact, unless you are a compleibitionist, it's best not to get involved in all this," advises Mehta. Source

Wedding Saving Passbook

 

Monica married Nick this day. At the end of the wedding party, Monica's mother gave her a newly opened bank saving passbook with Rs.1000 deposit amount.

Mother: 'Monica, take this passbook. Keep it as a record of your marriage life. When there's something happy and memorable happened in your new life, put some money in. Write down what it's about next to the line. The more memorable the event is, the more money you can put in. I've done the first one for you today. Do the others with Nick.

When you look back after years, you can know how much happiness you've had.'


Monica shared this with Nick when getting home. They both thought it was a great idea and were anxious to know when the second deposit can be made. This was what they did after certain time:

* 7 Feb: Rs.100, first birthday celebration for Nick after marriage
* 1 Mar: Rs.300, salary raise for Monica
* 20 Mar: Rs.200, vacation trip to Bali
* 15 Apr: Rs.2000, Monica got pregnant
* 1 Jun: Rs.1000, Nick got promoted
* ..... And so on...


However, after years, they started fighting and arguing for trivial things. They didn't talk much. They regretted that they had married the nastiest people in the world.... No more love...Kind of typical nowadays, huh?

One day Monica talked to her Mother: 'Mom, we can't stand it anymore. We agree to divorce. I can't imagine how I decided to marry this guy!!!"


Mother: 'Sure, girl, that's no big deal. Just do whatever you want if you really can't stand it. But before that, do one thing first.

Remember the saving passbook I gave you on your wedding day? Take out all money and spend it first. You shouldn't keep any record of such a poor marriage.'


Monica thought it was true. So she went to the bank, waiting at the queue and planning to cancel the account. While she was waiting, she took a look at the passbook record. She looked, and looked, and looked. Then the memory of all the previous joy and happiness just came up her mind. Her eyes were then filled with tears. She left and went home.

When she was home, she handed the passbook to Nick, asked him to spend the money before getting divorce.


The next day, Nick gave the passbook back to Monica. She found a new deposit of Rs.5000. And a line next to the record: 'This is the day I notice how much I've loved you thru out all these years. How much happiness you've brought me.'


They hugged and cried, putting the passbook back to the safe. Do you know how much money they had saved when they retired? I did not ask. I believe the money did not matter any more after they had gone thru all the good years in their life.

"When you fall in any way, don't see the place where you fell instead see the place from where you slipped. Life is about correcting mistakes."

Condom May Become thing of past

It may be time for men to split the contraceptive burden with women, for Scottish scientists have come up with a new 'Pill' that drastically reduces sperm count in men.

Professor Richard Anderson, from Edinburgh University, is on the look out for men willing to try the revolutionary hormone injections, containing progesterone and testosterone, to be given in the bum every two months.

The researcher believes that the contraceptive treatment works better than condoms, and is as effective as the female Pill.

"If this trial is successful I imagine there would be interest in looking at marketing the injection as a male contraceptive," the Sun quoted Anderson as saying.

"The surveys we have done have been very positive - and particularly positive from women. A lot of women who have taken on the reproductive and contraceptive burden think it's maybe time men took their turn.

"Even if not all men would be keen on an injection, there would definitely be a market to make such a treatment available," he added.

Anderson further said that no serious side-effects had been predicted from the year-long trial, run by the World Health Organisation. The effects of the injections were also assured to be fully reversible.

A spokesman from the Family Planning Association said: "It is important that research continues to try to give men more contraceptive choice. But it is crucial that any new contraceptive is rigorously tested to make sure that it is incredibly safe and effective." Source:The times of India

Different forms of Love

Whether you're 80 or 18, everyone just needs to be loved! Let's discover how notions of love expand and how falling in love has lost its retirement age!

We're living in a world where the age span of love is rising. From teenagers who are being told, 'How to be a Perfect Kisser', to middle-aged women who figure out '10 Ways to Please your Man in Bed' from magazines, and old couples who are advised on '20 Ways to Better Loving' – can anyone ignore love at any age? Why, even author Gabriel Garcia Marquez said, "I would prove to men how wrong they are to think that they stop falling in love as they get older, since they actually start getting older as soon as they stop falling in love."

Says relationship guru, Dr Rohit Juneja, "We're expanding our notions of love and are finding new expressions to show it; this makes us energetic and lively. The increasing divorce rate, in a way is healthy, because that shows that people don't want to be in loveless relationships."

Finally, the pursuit of love is making us get out of our comfort zone.

Desire to love: When you're 14, you don't need a reason to be in love. The love gurus have marketed love in every space of a youngster's life. At 14, for Vandana Sareen, boys are a fascinating subject. "We can't stop talking about guys. I'm in love with a boy in my class. At my age, the pressure to fall in love is intense. I don't know the difference between attraction and love yet. So, I'll just experiment."

For youngsters in the love market, it's about experimentation and glamour. Says psychologist Anu Goel, "Love in the teens is dreamy." There's an openness in the post I-pill generation. Explains marriage counsellor, Dr Kamal Khurana, "It's more fairy-tale and fantasy-like, where they think that everything is possible."

Young love
Spring is in the air; There's magic everywhere; When you're young and in love — The Marvellettes, American band

Maintenance of love : "There's hardly any maintenance required; love comes easy, and also goes easy," says psychologist Goel. "Women are more upfront in expressing love, which is all about deep intimacy, sexual longing and exploration fuelled by a consumer mentality," says Radhika Chopra, a sociologist at Delhi University. When you are young, and you fall in love, it's an illusion. For singer Hard Kaur, "Love is understanding... it's about making pancakes at three in the morning!" Why, even Rakhi Sawant is trying to look for love on India's national television. "I feel the need to find love and share my life with someone."

Middle-aged love
Love gets me every time my heart changed my mind – Shania Twain, singer

Desire to love: Even Google doesn't have a clear description of love for a middle-aged person! You're supposed to be looking after your babies and making a success of your career or having great sex outside marriage! This is the most vulnerable group; 'settled' couples feel 'unsettled', and divorce isn't uncommon, as most feel there's still time to find love. Says relationship expert Dr Rohit Juneja, "These are people living lives in quiet desperation. They want to break free. So, they start by having affairs. Monogamy is the monopoly of one individual, which leads to monotony."

Says author Kishwar Desai, who met Meghnad

Desai when she was 47. "Love happened to me. We share everything and have a deep sense of bonding!" Dr Avdesh Sharma says, "You cannot imagine how unhappy mid-lifers are with their marriages. When they meet attractive people, the chemistry is lethal. There's a craving for deep emotional intimacy in this group." So, what do men and women look for in love at this age? Says Anu Chadha, 52, accessory exporter, "I'm looking for love that is serene not heady and hip-hop." Sanjeev Khatri, VP, Queen's International Travels, believes, "Being in love makes you vivacious. For men, it's to be with someone who is emotionally and sexually attractive."

Maintenance of love : Growing up doesn't cool off desire, rather, it fires it up. "Love is about intimacy, appreciation and communication. Remove your conflicts," advises Dr Juneja. Meera Bhardwaj, a recently-married Delhi University lecturer at 42 feels, "Keeping love alive is about indulging in small romantic gestures, giving compliments and showing gratitude."

Old love
I wanna make you smile/ Whenever you're sad/ Carry you around/ When your arthritis is bad/ All I wanna do is/ Grow old with you – Adam Sandler, actor

Desire to love : Don't just blame Viagra; the desire to find love is intense at 62 for Col Raj Khanna. He says, "I lost my wife some years ago and was looking for friendship. So, when I found love for the second time, it was more about sharing." Dr Avdesh Sharma, psychiatrist, opines, "I've had men come to me, who have spouses who don't want sex. There are a lot of mismatched couples looking for emotional fulfillment. The solution is to find newness in your daily routine."

Maintenance of love : At 77, Mehtab Singh's definition of love is, "Loving stays young; the body grows old. Love can give you a glow even in your 70s." Says Dr Kamal Khurana, "Many people face the empty nest syndrome, so love in this stage has to be supportive." The need for physical intimacy is reflected in the attitude of 60- plus men in Joggers' Park, where conversations revolve around sex! Says Dr Raj Bhrambhat, sexologist, "There's new hope with Viagra. Men want sexual gratification even after 70. There's no age for love and sex. It can happen anytime." source:The Times of India

Living with a sex-addict?

When Simran started dating Rohit, she found him to be an aggressive, but a fun-to-be with lover who did everything to rock her sex life in bed. But

Is she addicted to sex? (Getty Images)

by the time they ought to speculate marriage, she realised that he wasn't a normal man with normal sexual desires.

Rather, he was a sex-addict, whose wild sex etiquettes and voracious hunger for physical intimacy was having a negative impact on their life together. Failing to cope up with his overtly insatiable sex drive, known to the world as 'Satyriasis' or 'Don Juanism', Simran had no option but to part ways with her beau.

Even for males, there's a chance that you maybe hooked to a 'nymphomaniac', who appears as - 'a loving girl for you' in the beginning. But by the time her 'sex-kitten' avatar comes to the fore it's already too late to pull up your socks. Dr. Sameer Parikh, a psychologist, defines sex addiction as a situation, "When having sex is seen as one's sole priority, leading to a neglect of the other important facets of life (e.g., working, socializing, and sleeping), an addiction or compulsion to sex. Sexual addiction and compulsivity include, any sexual behaviour which is "had" or done in an obsessive, uncontrollable, and/or irrational way that becomes self-destructive. People with this diagnosis feel, and indeed may have, little or no control over sex, and are required to go through psychological therapies and medication in some cases."

So, before you get into involved with a sex maniac, here are a few cues to help you know if you are clinging onto a sex addict or a nymphomaniac. However, remember that these are just cues and not a yardstick to make or mar your relationship.

He's a sex-addict if ...
1. Normal lovemaking session? Not for him!
He usually complains about the lack of variety in his sex life with you. Normal love making sessions never satisfy him as he demands hard core porn-star type moves and grinds. He finds bliss in numbers, be it the number of abnormal sex-positions or the number of times he wants to climax in a single night...all hinting towards his out-of-control sexual problem.

2. He's leading a double life
Do you doubt he's having a liaison with someone else only to seek sexual gratification? Do you feel cheated in his company? Does he hide his 'self-help' acts from you, only because he is going overboard with them? And despite repeatedly telling him, he simply can't control his sexual urges.

3. He constantly digs into sexual stuff
No, we are not talking about men who take pleasure in watching occasional porn or reading sex write-ups and looking at photographs, but a man who is pre-occupied with X-rated stuff even at times and places where it's strictly avoidable. It's only X-rated movies that he is interested in most of the times. If his browser history reveals out and out porn sites in chronological order and his mail box is filled with invitations from adult dating sites ...you have all the reasons to watch out for.

4. Sex on his mind!
In his diehard pursuit of sex or romantic relationships, he is neglecting his social, professional and spiritual responsibilities and development. Even the extreme fear of being inflicted by STDs is no hurdle in his sexual escapades...then you should know he's an addict.

5. He's a runaway guy!
Does he usually try to get away from you after having sex? When he desires, he wants a roller-coaster session but soon after it's over, he's filled with guilt of getting physically close to you. This sense of withdrawal is due to his awareness about the compulsive craving for sex which he fails to curb.

6. Legal troubles? Who cares!
You caught him talking over the phone in an indecent (sexually explicit) manner with someone. You get to know of some legal allegations against him for anything - ranging from having a romp at an illegal place or with someone like a prostitute or a minor. You might even find him engaging in offensive activities like voyeurism or exhibitionism. If even the prospects of getting into legal trouble fail to stop him from exercising his sexual prowess, you should be aware that you are living with an addict!

7. He's getting cynical by the day
Together with the above mentioned clues, if you find your guy living with intense negative feelings of guilt, shamefulness and remorse, the extent of being suicidal, it's only because he can't stop himself from doing what he knows is wrong not just for him but also for his loved ones.

She's a nymphomaniac if...

Is she addicted to sex? (Getty Images)

1. She's a spotlight hog
Nymphomaniac women need attention from more than just one person. She can go to any extent to be a man-magnet. So, beware if your partner is all over your friend, colleague, boss or any new male for that matter.

2. The world is sex-starved to her
That's the notion she lives in. To a Nympho, no one is oversexed, only undersexed! And she is the only one on planet Earth to satiate the sexual hunger of every sex-starved soul.

3. She's always in a relationship
Her past reveals one continuous series of relationships, overloaded with sexcapades. And the reason why she's never single is that she can't stand being alone.

Moreover, each one of her former boyfriends is stark opposite from one another, hinting towards the fact that she's not looking for that certain someone special, but for that certain anyone.

4. Sex, sex every where
No matter what you say to her, she will only decipher a sexual meaning or connotation from it to satiate her urges. She'll attach every thread of conversation with eroticism finally leading to sex.

Even your passive behaviour is no resistance to her over-charged self pouncing upon you.

5. Sex is a drug
Yes, to all her ailments, anxieties and problems the only medicine that works best is - sex. She just can't get over it. Knowingly most of the times, she fails to get over that compulsive compelling to get you into bed.

6. Too much, too soon
That's her expectation from the relationship and when we say this, we mean only her physical demands. While a normal girl is still happy with kissing and cuddling, she is already burning with a burning desire to be in bed with you...with her ruling the roost, of course!

7. Deny her and see!
Every man goes through certain 'low-drive' days, when he just fails to reciprocate his gal's passion and makes lame excuses for the next time.

But dare to deny a nympho and she'll touch the extremes of behavioural patterns, including a severe spat, depression and an acute sense of withdrawal from everything around her. Extreme suicidal tendencies will get more severe.

Expert advice:
"It is impossible for sex-addict themselves to realise the need of treatment for his state of being. In such a scenario, it is the prerogative of the other half to deal with patience and convince him/her to meet an expert for advice. Lack of treatment can not only expose the addicts to acute embarrassment, but also land them in legal troubles and wrong relations, especially in the case of women," explains physiatrist, Dr. Aruna Broota.
Source:timesofindia.indiatimes